“Stay in the now, let your eyes gaze softly towards the future, remain unattached to the outcome, and find meaning in the moment. Deal with what comes, as it comes.”
TREVOR WALLER
ABOUT TREVOR
Trevor is a teacher, author and facilitator who uses Viktor Frankl’s logotherapy to help people find meaning and purpose.
Twenty-Two Lessons For Now
Twenty-two Lessons for Now is an intelligent, witty, and easy-to-read guide to crafting a life of meaning and joy.
I Matter
Trevor’s flagship course that assists individuals and employees to deal with stress and burnout by thinking clearly, cultivating optimism and communicating assertively.
LESSON OF THE MONTH
If you think or feel that something is not ‘right’, don’t feel the need to suffer endlessly. You chose once, so choose again. Do it as quickly and as easily as possible. This is not about giving up. This is about one of two things: you’ve given it your all, and it’s still not working; or, at your deepest level – call it gut instinct – you know that something is not right. The grass may not be greener on the other side, but that is no reason to stay where the grass feels wrong. Choose new grass. Sometimes the right choice is simply to make a new choice.
If you feel that you’ve made a wrong choice, choose to make a new choice. Choose not to suffer the anxiety of uncertainty but rather to call it – and call it quickly. Some may see this behaviour as irrational and impulsive, but it is not: ‘impulse’ is a synonym for ‘instinct’. And instinct – that feeling of “knowing” that emanates from deep in the gut – is not a rational thing; it’s the polar opposite. Remember: change is a verb. Without a conscious choice to be different and to do things differently, nothing will change.
“I Matter has opened my mind in ways I never imagined possible. People at work smile more, listen better, and even work harder! I told my boss, the other day, that it is like a dream come true.”
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
“A powerful, beautifully written and heartfelt manual for life! So much wisdom packed tightly into succinct and valuable life lessons. Read it, re-read it, share it and live it!”
CARIN MARCUS, Clinical Social Work / Logotherapist