“Stay in the now, let your eyes gaze softly towards the future, remain unattached to the outcome, and find meaning in the moment. Deal with what comes, as it comes.”
TREVOR WALLER
ABOUT TREVOR
Trevor is a teacher, author and facilitator who uses Viktor Frankl’s logotherapy to help people find meaning and purpose.
Twenty-Two Lessons For Now
Twenty-two Lessons for Now is an intelligent, witty, and easy-to-read guide to crafting a life of meaning and joy.
I Matter
Trevor’s flagship course that assists individuals and employees to deal with stress and burnout by thinking clearly, cultivating optimism and communicating assertively.
LESSON OF THE MONTH
When we are disappointed, it is because someone (or something) has not met the expectations that we have placed on them – or the situation. When we appoint someone (or something) and then assume that they (or it) will meet those expectations, we generally end up disappointed. The truth is that nobody knows how it is supposed to be: things turn out the way they are supposed to turn out – not the way that we have decided they need to be. So: take action, make choices, and decide things, but don’t attach yourself to the outcomes.
Life unfolds just as it should; it is only our expectations that get in the way. Ego says, “It all must be done my way!” Ego wants to control everything – but it cannot control other people or their reactions. Allowing things to unfold the way they are supposed to will also allow for a certain flow – you will experience the freedom that non-attachment brings. Everything leaves our hands at some point. Bless what you have and, when it is time to let it go, bless the letting go too. It is not easy, but neither is holding on too tightly. Let it come and let it go.
“I Matter has opened my mind in ways I never imagined possible. People at work smile more, listen better, and even work harder! I told my boss, the other day, that it is like a dream come true.”
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
“A powerful, beautifully written and heartfelt manual for life! So much wisdom packed tightly into succinct and valuable life lessons. Read it, re-read it, share it and live it!”
CARIN MARCUS, Clinical Social Work / Logotherapist